This weekend we celebrate M’s first official Father’s Day. Last year we were pregnant with A and now? Now our gorgeous girl is here and we get to celebrate with her!
The role of “Father” seems to have grown compared to previous eras. Dad’s these day take on more of the parenting duties. Or.. they should. More Dad’s seem to be taking part in the child’s life. I find especially that Father’s in or around my generation are playing a bigger role in raising children. And M is no exception. He takes on many parenting duties. When he gets home from work he will take A from me so I can run to the bathroom, get Supper ready, have a shower. Our arrangement seems to be that he changes her night diapers since I nurse her. He enjoys bath time in the evening with her, just as much as I do. We lay in bed at night and read a book to A.. together. He is as proud as can be pushing that stroller around in the grocery store, mall, on the sidewalk.. she is his daughter and he wears that like a badge of honour. As he should!
My husband is amazing. I try and tell him on a daily basis what a fantastic Father he is – not just on one particular day. When I asked him what he wanted for Father’s Day, he eloquently said “Beer. And a nap.” Well then.. easy enough, no? M doesn’t ask for much and when he does he knows I can’t ever say no to him (except a PS3 years ago.. and I was right, wasn’t I dear ol’ hubby?!) I always try and get him a mixture of something unique, something practical and something fun for his gifts. His birthday wasn’t long ago and he received a shirt, a pair of pants, whiskey and whiskey rocks (awesome little invention!) He did not want to go anywhere fancy for Supper, rather – he wanted to BBQ at home. And he wanted to man the grill himself. Sounds good to me!
We began dating when I was just 15; he was 16. I never wanted to get married, didn’t want children. I wanted to move out as soon as I could and get the hell out of my small town and travel the world. I wanted to disappear and get away from it all. M grounded me so much. He was the complete opposite in ways from me.. but at the same time, so similar. We have been through so much in our lives and have only grown stronger in our relationship. We were together for 10 years experiencing life together, forming our identities individually and as a couple, growing even more in love.. then we got married and now we have a little one of our own. I really think this will help in us raising A. We know each other SO well and have such an immense, all-encompassing love and respect for each other. He really is the best partner I could ever ask for. We are so thankful to have him in our lives. He has always been there for me through everything. He is just so thoroughly sweet.
He changed every single diaper while in the hospital since I was laid up in bed. The nurses were amazed by him! I wasn’t, because I knew that was how he was and how lucky I am to have him. I love him even more, which I did not think was possible! It feels like she has always been carved in our little family and was just meant to be and like she has always been around. She really does complete our little family.
One of my absolute favourite articles written about Fathers and Daughters: http://www.fromdatestodiapers.com/50-rules-for-dads-of-daughters. It is such a great read and couldn’t be more true. Especially the first one listed – Love Her Mom. By A seeing how well her Daddy treats her Mama, it will give her that confidence to seek out a love like ours. Filled with love, respect, compassion, trust. She will have such a strong male role-model to look up to. He is what a real man should be. He is not only the main provider for our family, but he is emotionally there for us.
I love you, my gamer/nerdy/loving/sweet/funny husband. You are the greatest man I could have ever procreated with! ♥
Maybe I will let him have that nap, after all!
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