Monthly Archives: December 2013

Choosing to Have Children.. or not.

First, check out this article which is a view on choosing not to have children. It’s a great little read which has sparked some communication on the topic through various social media sites:

I feel like I can relate on both ends of the spectrum. You do not need a child to be validated as a person. I had my ideals reversed a few years ago, it seems. I was always the one that never wanted children. I thought kids were weird. Not something that interested me. I only babysat my brother & sister when I was younger & that was enough for me. I wanted a ton of animals & that would have made me happy. I wanted to travel the world. Then everything changed & my outlook changed.. in the opposite direction. I never thought I would make a good Mother. Now? Now I realize I am a kick-ass Mother & I adore my daughter more than anything. It IS tough though. Some days I wonder if I am the biggest screw up. Other days I think I’ve got a handle on parenting.

Since the man & I were together for so long before having a baby, we heard every comment imaginable. It got extremely frustrating. People will say anything, without realizing the back-story. You never know everything that is going on. Nor should you. I had so many rude comments made when I would say I didn’t think I wanted children. Hell, even when I was pregnant with my daughter I was getting comments about when we would start on another one! Seriously. 

The people that choose to have children for the wrong reasons are the ones that mess up their kids in the end. 

There are amazing people that chose not to have children that have wonderful, fulfilled lives. Whether you want a baseball team full of kids, just one child or no children — that is okay. It is the right thing. Whichever you choose.


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Celebrating a Non-Religious Christmas.

Those who know me, know how into Christmas I get. I adore Christmas. I live Christmas. I believe in the Christmas spirit throughout the year. I am completely open to many different religions. I love learning about different religions even though I am not religious myself. If you are religious, good for you. I do not look down upon you for that. However, many times, especially during the holidays, I feel as though those of us who are not religious get a ton of flack. Why is that okay to do, but it’s not okay to do the same for Christians, for instance?

As soon as December hits, I see posts daily on social media websites about keeping Christ in Christmas. I will not get into that much, but I will say — what about my family & I who celebrate a secular holiday? Are we not allowed to enjoy everything good that Christmas has to offer? Because for me — when you take the religion out of the equation — doesn’t it just come down to love? Spending time with your family. The holiday spirit? The atmosphere? When I see my daughters face light up when she sees Ho Ho. Or the immense love I feel when we are just sitting at the counter, baking goodies. Dancing around our living room to a variety of Christmas songs.

Keep that in mind, just because we don’t all celebrate the same way you do, does not mean we are any less. Whether you are Christian, Jewish, Wiccan, Hindu.. celebrate love. Enlighten yourself, arm yourself with knowledge. Be happy with who you are, but try better. Try & open your mind a bit — because there are vast differences in each & every one of us. Embrace the differences.

Whether you say Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays — thank you for wishing my family & I a joyous occasion. Most of us are just being polite when we say that. We aren’t taking a dig at getting rid of your religion by saying Happy Holidays. To me, Happy Holidays is a broader spectrum. Because — there are so many different religions & cultures in our world.


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